An article by Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This is the map I use when working with couples. I believe it is the best modality for couples work-very powerful and accessible. Published in Psychology Today.
Sustainable Love: The Happy Marriage is the ‘Me’ Marriage
An interesting article in the New York Times about the desire for self-growth and meaning within a marriage. Written by Tara Parker-Pope, published December 31, 2010.
The Guilt-Trip Casserole: The Family Dinner
Getting everyone together for the “family dinner” is often a struggle for parents, especially parents of teenagers. This article by Jan Hoffman published in the New York Times, October 3, 2009 looks at some of the beliefs about family dinners. It includes experts’ thoughts on what makes them important as well as other options for the meeting the goals of the “family dinners” without the dinners.
When a Parent’s ‘I Love You’ Means ‘Do As I Say’
This article by Alfie Kohn was published in the New York Times, September 14, 2009. It raises questions about using positive or negative conditional parenting, especially withholding love and attention when a child is not meeting behavior expectations. I think it is important to note that loving your child “unconditionally” does not mean letting go of expectations or the ability to discuss and have consequences for unmet expectations.
Parenting Tips: Praise Can Be Bad, Lying Is Normal
This interview with Po Bronson focuses on his research with young children regarding the questionable effectiveness of praise and the prevalence of lying. He offers strategies for both. It was aired on All Things Considered, NPR, August 27, 2009 and includes an excerpt from Bronson’s book “Nurture Shock”.
